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Swingers Etiquette
The lifestyle is wonderful for a specific reason. Most of us connect with each other through understanding, thoughtfulness, and common courtesy. We treat others just as we ourselves wish to be treated. If you use the following etiquette suggestions or adapt them to your own situation, you should be a welcome participant. Be aware that this is a lifestyle full of insecurities, uncertainties, and fears. Courtesy is how we all want to be treated – with kindness, thoughtfulness, understanding, and sensitivity. In essence, courtesy is about treating people the way we ourselves want to be treated. Whether or not you are personally interested in swinging with someone, be polite. You never know. You may share many other interests. You may meet that person again. They may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and wish to share time. This is a priority. Nothing turns a person off faster than an unclean body or unfresh breath. So please be clean and fresh at all times.
If you are interested in swinging with someone, express your interest in an inviting way. They will respond positively if they are interested. If they are not and say “No, thank you,” do not ask WHY. No amount of sweet talk or coercion on your part will change their mind and will probably work against you. Everyone has the right to say “NO” at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Do not ever forget that. Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself in a scene that you are not comfortable with. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy yourself. Do only what you want. Do it when you want. Choose whom you want to do it with. It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. The use of condoms should not offend anybody. Anyone not willing to take this precaution is acting selfishly and irresponsibly. You are not being accused of being unclean, but simply someone wishes to give you both with protection.
No groups of single guys; it is intimidating to the other guests when guys go “hunting in packs.”
No illegal substances of any kind are allowed. Failure to adhere to these rules will result in being asked to leave the premises and a lifetime ban. Most importantly, have a good time. Act out your fantasies. Explore your own sexuality. Enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm. Keep laughter and a positive attitude.
No illegal substances of any kind are allowed. Failure to adhere to these rules result in being asked to leave the premises and a lifetime ban.
BDSM Etiquette
We ask that you respect the play space. Ensure you maintain a safe distance and be mindful of the back swings of floggers and whips. Utilize a safe word or gesture during play, particularly if you are not thoroughly familiar with your play partner. RED is commonly recognized as a safe word that means STOP! The equipment is provided for your enjoyment, and its use is at your own risk. Please ensure the equipment is safe and clean before you begin. Also, remember to clean it after use. If you find any equipment unsafe, inform the organizer or dungeon monitor immediately. They will remove it from use.
Play is encouraged. Be aware that you use all equipment at your own risk. Neither the venue organiser nor the suppliers of the equipment accept any liability for any loss or injury. Do not sit on the equipment. Do not use it as a table for food or drink. This prevents genuine players from using it.
Please do not touch other people, their equipment, clothes, toys, or their subs without permission. If you would like to borrow something, please show respect by asking first. Make sure that it is returned cleaned afterward.
Please do not join a scene in session without the explicit permission of all involved. It is considered impolite to encroach upon them or to attempt to intrude. If they desire your participation, you will receive an invitation. If you wish to observe a scene in progress, keep a respectful distance. Minimize conversations among spectators, and keep them at a low volume. Additionally, please respect the aftercare between the submissive and Dom/me. Leave them undisturbed until they are finished.
Do not allow yourself to be involved in a scene you are not comfortable with. If you become uncomfortable with a scene with others, then simply make your excuse and leave the area. Please seek out a dungeon monitor if you need aftercare or need to report an issue. It will be dealt with quickly and without fuss.
No photography, cameras, or recording devices, including mobiles with cameras, are permitted to be used at any party. If there is an official event photographer, you should ask them to take any photographs you would like. They will use the venue’s own camera to vet what has been taken. All photographs will be sent via email after review by the venue owner. No copies will be kept unless gifted to the venue by the model in the picture. The venue can be hired privately for photographs to be taken.
Do not discuss the play at the party with anyone not attending. Avoid mentioning the people included in any scene before or after the event. This is a simple but often overlooked respect for privacy. Overlooking this can cause distress.
Please respect the right to privacy of the other guests at the party/event. Failure to do so will incur a suspension of permission to attend the Annex.
No illegal substances of any kind are allowed, no illegal activities are allowed.
Failure to adhere to these rules result in being asked to leave the premises and may incur a lifetime ban.
Sub notes (excuse the pun)
1. Store your bags/equipment thoughtfully and do not block walkways to avoid injury to others.
2. Before starting a scene you wish to be ‘private,’ think carefully. Is it wise to attempt this at a public play party? Remember @The Annex we operate an open door policy for safety reasons. Before starting a scene at a public play party, think carefully. Are you confident? Are you comfortable enough to be seen playing?